
Would It help?
There’s a movie, I think it’s Bridge of Spies, it’s not particularly good, but there is a scene that is. A Russian spy has been caught and is being charged with treason. I can’t recall what he did, exactly, but he did it poorly enough to be caught, I guess. Can’t be so good of a spy if you got caught.
Anyways, he’s being interviewed by the FBI and he seems unbothered by the whole thing. When asked why he’s so calm and why he isn’t worried, he asks the FBI agent: Would it help? Would it help to be worried?
Would it help his situation?
Would it help any situation?
After being rather worried for the past week, and thinking about being worried for the past week, I believe worrying is meant to serve the purpose of steeling oneself against bad news:
If the bad outcome happens to be the one I’m stuck with, then I’ll hurt less if I spend loads of time thinking about it because it won’t be a surprise.
Somehow the idea that we can pre-grieve a situation and spare ourselves some of the freshness of pain justifies our worry.
As someone who worries a lot I’m not sure I have enough experience not worrying to know wether or not it’s a good strategy. I’ve apparently made my choice.
The flip side of worrying the way I and so many do is that when what you’re worrying about doesn’t come to fruition, it feels pretty damn good. Would you feel as good if there wasn’t a weight to lift?
I mean honestly, probably yes. It would probably feel as good, and you’d not have spent all that time feeling like shit about something that didn’t actually end up happening.